Humans are powerful creatures, we are born with a remarkable ability to discern our environment as well as the  people surrounding us. A small child has no issue conveying his/her needs to their parent. It may take a few attempts however a child will eventually win most arguments and within moments will let the grievance go completely.

Somewhere along our path, we loose this innate ability to ask/insist on what we know will add to our comfort and enjoyment in life. We also develop the ability to hold grievances. Some of us are able to hold these grievances for years, decades, lifetimes. The fundamental drawback of never letting go of a grievance, is the strength they have to cause physical, emotional and financial decay.

If you had a backpack strapped to your shoulders for the remainder of your life and this pack was filled with a 10 pound rock for each and every grievances you currently hold, calculate the excess weight would you be carrying. 10 ~ 90 ~ 280 ~ 5000 pounds?

Each Grievance you hold in your life is a “self imposed” burden. Even if the other person did an unspeakable wrong, holding that Grievance will impact you, not them. I repeat: holding that Grievance will impact YOU, not THEM. The individuals we believe harmed us, are off in their own little worlds worrying about their life, their grievances, their issues. You, on the other hand, are carrying a load only you can release. Imagine how it would feel to unzip your backpack, remove the 10 pound weight with their name on it, lower it to the ground, and walk away. The grievance serves no purpose, it has no function, unless you consider degeneration a function worthy of holding on to.

Today write out a list of those you are holding a grievance against.

Tomorrow we will take steps toward dissolving them. 



About Italian Living

I'm an interior decorator from Canada. I own a design firm. I have three grown daughters who are confidant women living busy lives. I love my family my friends and my life, however, something is missing. December 3rd, my eyes open at 3:33 a.m. It's time to fulfill my lifelong dream of living in Italy..... I rent my house, pack my bags, say a final farewell to all the people I love most in this world and hop on a plane January 13th.... alone. This is my story...
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4 Responses to MOVING BEYOND GRIEVANCES ~ Day 15

  1. Mark says:

    Nice work Shauna, thanks again. I’ve buried them, frozen them, burned them, tapped on them, danced on them, re-birthed and probably more. Ultimately I believe the question is, can I keep my heart open no matter what. Looking forward to your insights tomorrow. Mark


    • Hi Mark,
      You made me smile with your comment. Isn’t it true! I have as much to learn from all of this as anyone. Like they say: we teach that which we most need to learn…. Take good care, Shauna


  2. I really like this. This reminds me of one of the lessons in a ‘Course in Miracles’ which requires you to meditate throughout the day on the affirmation ‘Love holds no grievances’.


    • Lorraine,
      A fellow ACIM academic…. love it!! I’m new down this path, I’ve not met many who are studying the Course, besides those in my group.
      I’m on Day 115 of The Course. The lesson you referenced was #68 and it did hold power for me. I’ve been on a path of emotional healing from a few of life’s strong lessons in the past year. This 21 Days of Cultivating Gratitude was my way of teaching what I needed to learn. To quote Buddha: “when the student is ready the teacher appears”.
      Thank you for your positive comments… as well as the reminder of “Love holds no grievances”.
      Take good care… Shauna


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